About Flaws.

About Flaws.

Monday, 10 August 2015

I've wanted to talk about this topic for a while but I've never been able to articulate it just how I wanted to so I put it off until my wonderful friend Charli posted a brilliant post on the topic and suggested I share my views.

Flaws are defined as "1. a mark, blemish or other imperfection which mars a substance or object. 2. mar, weaken or invalidation of something"

Now when I think of flaws I instantly go straight to my face and body to point these out. I don't particularly like my nose and the way it has a bit of wonkiness to it, I don't like how big and liney my forehead is, I have to spend extra time smoothing out my foundation to avoid a forehead looking like collection of streams running to nowhere, and lastly I don't honestly like my smile. If we take the second definition, I feel as all flaws are not always physical. For me I feel as if my pessimism and feeling unsure as to whether people like me as a flaw. I'm aware I'm horrendously uncool and often second guess how people feel towards me for example, I recently went out on Friday and saw some people I've met countless times and I still had those feelings tugging at me...whether they like me or I've made a bad impression and so on. With that all written down, it's a bit sad. Sad that I find that many things wrong with me and that other people will have the same type of lists. 

Just like Charli, I was terrified of jumping into the internet world where anyone from anywhere in the world can comment on your appearance negatively or positively from the comfort of their own home but once I finally took the plunge I've noticed that you often see flaws in yourself that others don't and you will be welcomed with open arms into a community. It's the most human thing. Like when you say to someone "ignore my spot on my chin!" and they reply with "I honestly wouldn't have noticed it unless you said it..." and I can happily say I've never received a hateful comment (yet there's always going to be one arsehat...)

Learning to be happy within yourself and ultimately loving yourself is a difficult thing to learn to do but it's so worth it. I find myself sometimes thinking "I look GOOD today and I'm happy about it, I'm going to go parade my massive moon head to the world" and it feels great to have that confidence even if it's not exactly permanent. Could you imagine how boring the world would be if everyone was the same, if everyone looked like a model and behaved the same way? Your flaws are yours. They make you, you and there's nothing wrong with that. Embrace them!

Just like I said in my Being Unapologetically You post "Embrace your quirks because 9/10 people actually like your uniqueness shall we say? Post your selfies despite how many likes they get because YOU like them, it's YOUR account and even post your multiple chin derps because let's all be honest here, THEY ARE FUNNY." And sometimes, Beyoncé  it out.

Make sure to head over to Charli's blog and Youtube and show her some love!